Day61 life seems to be good, not much worries here, I slept till five thirty this morning, I guess I needed that extra half hour, I'm looking forward to a good days work, I think we're going to get a lot done today, I will try out my new camera and post some new pictures on face book tonite if anyone wants to see them.
I'd like to run a situation by all of you and see what you think, I am starting to feel like I am being scammed and need some good advice. I know that a lot of my readers think it is too early for me to start a relationship but I feel like I am wasting time waiting and would very much like the companionship of a woman in my life, I used to look at wemen and all I would think of is how nice it would be to get them in bed but for some reason I see them a lot differently now, when I see them now I see how beautiful all of them seem to be in their own way, I can feel their happiness when they smile and I can see the sadness and despair in their eyes and want so badly to be able to take it away, I want to be sharing my life with someone and being able to care for them and comfort them when they are unsure of what tomorrow brings, when I find the right girl I believe I will see comfort in her eyes every day, a relaxed look on her face because I will be her best friend and do whatever I can without compromising my morals and values to keep that comforting look in her eyes, to put her heart at ease about what tomorrow brings. i am starting to believe that I am being taken advantage of, and I don't want to believe this is true, I met a girl on Craig's list and we've been talking for about three weeks, she says she wants to come and meet me and I was so happy I was ready to buy a plane ticket for her, she told me she was ready to relocate for the right man, it all seemed so perfect, until she asked me to send her money for the ticket instead of me buying it, I want a relationship very badly but that does not make me a fool, I want to believe those three weeks of talking were real and that the ticket situation was a misunderstanding, I find it hard to believe that people would play your emotions for that amount of time to scam you out of a little money. I told her I won't be sending any money for any reason and we are still talking but not as much, how can I possibly think of continuing this relationship when I already don't trust her, where do you draw the line, in my mind I think you should talk about the mistakes and work through them, that is how you build trust and a strong relationship, isn't it? I'm new at this so I'm not sure. My heart says try to get past this but my mind says she's scamming me, Well its six forty-five, ive got to go to work, James
Find a real live woman that is within touching distance....relationships like you discribed end badly. Take some time to get to know a person and base your relationship on friendship, which may or may not grow into a relationship. Go to Church, surprising how many women you find there in singles groups and they will probably not ask you for momey. (The church does that all by itself) Also find a woman who has a job and doesn't need you except as a friend, and eventually you will find a woman who can love you as Jim, and will find you strengths and your weaknesses as endearing. This good information Jimmy......Take your time.....get to know someone as a friend. Respect each other and you are worthy or respect at this point in your life so Respect Yourself. Aunt P.
ReplyDeleteOk, since you asked - you are being scammed. If she really wanted to meet you, she would pay for her own ticket. Suggest that she pay for the first ticket, and you will pay for the second ticket, and see how that goes...
ReplyDeleteJimmy, my good friend, I love you like family and I have to be honest with you...NOOOOOOOOO!!!!! You said it yourself, how can you start a real relationship with someone you have never met in person and you already have an element of distrust? This is a big, big clue to you that she is NOT the one! Please, let it go and listen to your head!! You're heart is open right now, like a fresh wound that needs to be covered but just the fact that you are writing about this means that you know in your heart (even if it is just a flutter of doubt)that this girl is not worth it. This is one of those times, I promise you will look back and wonder, what was I thinking?? I promise, a good woman will come along. Jeff read your blog tonight too and his opinion is the same. Please, please, do not get more wrapped up in this one. I love you sweetie, it will happen but this girl is not the one. Karin
ReplyDeleteI have to agree. You deserve so much more Jimmy. It will happen. You are an amazing person, who has so much to give and the right girl is going to see that and not take advantage of you. Good things are worth waiting for! SH
ReplyDeleteDitto to all the comments above! Glad you are wise enough not to fall for this scam! Your Aunt P has a good suggestion about singles groups in a church.........sometimes you have to attend a few chuches to find the right church, and that may be your best bet for meeting somebody. But there's also that college that you were thinking of taking a writing class at, or something else. Maybe you'll meet somebody special when you're taking a class. (Hopefully, there are still some people in that town that are drug- and alcohol-free!) You are so much better off meeting somebody in person instead of through the Internet. And if you don't find somebody in that town, there must be other towns nearby where you might meet somebody. I'll continue to pray for you about finding the right person. (Sometimes a person finds the right one when they're not looking.) Just be careful, as you are a good person and you deserve somebody who's kind and caring.
ReplyDeleteah jimmy-like someone once said-if its worth it,its worth waiting for-and you my friend-are worth it-so slow down-get to know YOU-and the most amazing woman in the world will come-in your/and her time-and you guys will be awesome together-not what you might want to hear,but from personal experience(and my money)-yes,youre being scammed-take care-cynthia
ReplyDeleteDad I believe this is a scam. People do it all the time.
ReplyDeleteIf she really was interested she would take time to get to know you before
making a big jump and traveling to another state where she would know nobody.
She would maybe even pay her own way or have you come to her security zone or
hell maybe pay half on a ticket. I don't think this is a good idea and think you
should not try to hard to find love it will find you when you are ready and when
you least expect it or maybe just look locally and build a friendship first. You
are a wonderful man and many woman will be lucky to have you but always trust
your gut it never lies, your head and get cloudy and your heart can be crushed
or blinded but your gut is always true to you.
I love you and don't send anyone money over craigslist please. Ill talk to you
tomorrow love you and good night. I'm sooooooo proud of you and we miss ya!
Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
Jim, come on buddy. You know this is a scam. There is no doubt in my mind! It's too common an occurrence on the internet! Nobody with any sense would ask you to send money instead of a ticket, unless they were scamming you! She'd want to do everything she could to earn your trust. Instead, she's asking you for money before you've even met her? For all you know, she might not even be a for real girl! You seriously need to forget about Craig's list as a place to meet somebody. That's where desperate people go, and scammers know it!
ReplyDeleteJust get involved in some kind of social club or church and be friends with people you meet. It'll happen in due time. BE PATIENT! Now you have an excuse to get out of your comfort zone, and meet the kind of people you're not used to associating with. Good things will happen if you go about this right, but if you go out specifically shopping for a mate, you're going to get hurt! I promise.
Listen, you've only been clean for a couple of months, and that's a huge and praise-worthy accomplishment, but in the scheme of things, it hasn't been that long. Build friendships with the right kind of people, ones who aren't going to take advantage of you, or drag you down. Love will come.
Blessings,
Jack
Yes to all the comments above. Jimmy I hope you appreciate so many people looking out for you --it is pretty amazing. It is a lesson I have to learn over and over and over agian: ALWAYS listen to your first instincts. I know you are lonely. Continue to love yourself and the chicks will follow. Hang in there brother. ~dg
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