Day110, age five, I have to say I don't remember much from this period in my life, but there are three more things that I do remember, one of them is being slapped by a stranger after school, an adult, I don't remember what I did wrong but I do remember being slapped so hard across my face, and my mother screaming and yelling at this guy, I was actually scared for that guy, my mother was very angry. I also remember killing a pigeon, I didn't kill him on purpose, and I felt awful when I found him dead, we had an alley behind our house and there was ivy growing up the fence, there was a hole in the fence, a small one and I guess the bird made a nest in it, I saw the bird fly into the hole one day and used a piece of cardboard to trap the bird in there, I remember being very excited cause I caught a bird, I ran around and told everyone I knew but in a day or two I lost interest and forgot about him, when I checked on him a few days later he was dead, I felt really really bad and I took him out of that hole and hid him, I was so worried that someone would find out I killed him, I didn't do it on purpose but I felt super guilty, no one ever asked me about it though. I also remember the girl that lived downstairs, we used to hide in the closet and do things kids aren't supposed to do, look at each other naked, that kind of stuff. There's one more thing I remember, sitting at the kitchen table, my mother was dating, and I said something I guess I shouldn't of said, she slapped me, I don't remember why, or even who I was talking to, I just remember not knowing why, and feeling humiliated, I believe I might have been six by this time and I was shipped off to Tennessee to stay with my father. More about Tennessee tomorrow, James
Dear Jimmy,
ReplyDeleteIt's sad about the pigeon but things like that happen. I would be worried about you if you said you DIDN'T care about the pigeon! That would be more aweful than him dying. I was climbing a tree in my front yard when I was about that age and a huge branch broke off the tree. I thought I was going to be in trouble but my mom made me go appologize to the tree and give it a big hug becasue I had hurt the tree...I'm still a tree hugger to this day! The other thing is, don't feel too bad about hiding in the closet with the little girl. We all did stuff like that (I think:). Mine was behind the playhouse with a boy...and our parents caught us! I remember my mom trying to talk to me like an adult and tell me stuff like, I shouldn't be doing stuff like that. She wasn't mad at me but obviously she didn't want me to do stuff like that again. I wasn't scared, but I was extemely embarassed to say the least!! Yeah, kids shouldn't do stuff like that but it's all innocent...the ol' playing school/doctor thing. Now of course if anyone ever touches my little boy, I will have to kill them, but you get my drift:) I love you sweetie, karin
It's good to look back try to understand and try to forgive. Open yourself up to love unconditionally, life is easier when you let go of all the strings, everything that's been pulling on you, visualize cutting those string one at a time and then you will be free. You are doing a great job and heading in exactly the right direction to love yourself, when this happens the rest is cake. Love is always the answer. Love, Sandy
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