Day113, well today was a rough Monday, im, very stressed and not enjoying my job, I feel like I am running myself ragged trying to keep my guys caught up, and that's not my job, ive never been in a position where I supervise five guys, im so worried about falling behind, im running around trying to do there jobs for them instead of doing mine, I love the responsibility, I just need to learn how to stay in control of it. Im learning there is a fine line between friends and employees, and there is also a fine line between being a good boss that cares, or a boss that just sucks the life out of employees and moves on to the next, I am in favor of being a boss who cares, the hard part is finding the line between stern and asshole, and walking it. I must keep in mind in order to do my job I must first keep it, and if employees start to take advantage of my kindness, I don't lose money, my boss does, and in turn, im not doing my job cause if I was, he would be making money, not losing it, if it seems as if im babbling im sorry, im just trying to put things into perspective for myself, business is business and this is what I need to learn if im going to move up a notch or stay at this level forever. I believe I need to work on being more callus, not in a mean or cold way, just more able to base decisions on right or wrong instead of how I feel. The more the responsibility, the harder the decisions, and if you don't make them by what is best for business, you loose the responsibility of making them.
On another note, it seems lately ive been going through a bit of depression, ive never believed in depression before, I always thought it was the drugs I was on or coming off of that made me feel so down, hopefully it will pass, but if it doesn't, I wont try to mask it, I will face it head on and deal with it, and grant, you don't have to worry about me becoming addicted to religion or anything else, I will feel, no matter how bad it hurts, at least I know im alive, maybe I can spend Christmas with you in Mexico, that would be nice. Jim
Day113, well today was a rough Monday, im, very stressed and not enjoying my job, I feel like I am running myself ragged trying to keep my guys caught up, and that's not my job, ive never been in a position where I supervise five guys, im so worried about falling behind, im running around trying to do there jobs for them instead of doing mine, I love the responsibility, I just need to learn how to stay in control of it. Im learning there is a fine line between friends and employees, and there is also a fine line between being a good boss that cares, or a boss that just sucks the life out of employees and moves on to the next, I am in favor of being a boss who cares, the hard part is finding the line between stern and asshole, and walking it. I must keep in mind in order to do my job I must first keep it, and if employees start to take advantage of my kindness, I don't lose money, my boss does, and in turn, im not doing my job cause if I was, he would be making money, not losing it, if it seems as if im babbling im sorry, im just trying to put things into perspective for myself, business is business and this is what I need to learn if im going to move up a notch or stay at this level forever. I believe I need to work on being more callus, not in a mean or cold way, just more able to base decisions on right or wrong instead of how I feel. The more the responsibility, the harder the decisions, and if you don't make them by what is best for business, you loose the responsibility of making them.
On another note, it seems lately ive been going through a bit of depression, ive never believed in depression before, I always thought it was the drugs I was on or coming off of that made me feel so down, hopefully it will pass, but if it doesn't, I wont try to mask it, I will face it head on and deal with it, and grant, you don't have to worry about me becoming addicted to religion or anything else, I will feel, no matter how bad it hurts, at least I know im alive, maybe I can spend Christmas with you in Mexico, that would be nice. Jim
wow, well I hope only the best for you. You know I care, I'm here for you, talk to me, maybe I can give you some tips on dealing with depression.
ReplyDeleteJimmy, Did you know that your local Jr. College will have classes on being a good supervisor, boss ........whatever. Learn and meet people. Heck ROP classes might even have those classes and yes, it is hard being boss and you can do it. If you are depressed talk to a doctor...really it is helpful and might get you help, just a little but it is out there.......I believe in y ou.
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Hang in there sweetie! I understand what it's like to be the boss and not always do things your staff like but that's part of the job. If people are slacking and that is why you have to do their work for them, talk to them or let them go. If you just think you could do it better, maybe give them some suggestions and then trust them to do the best job they can. Take it from this tried and true control freak...they may not do it as good as you but give them a chance to at least try! Love you and am here for you if you need to let off some steam, Karin
ReplyDeleteWhen all else fails, find someone else that you can give a helping hand too.
ReplyDeleteHey Jim, Depression is real and it has real causes. You need to go check out Dr. Neil Nedley's site. He's the best authority I know on the subject of depression. In his research he has discovered 10 major causes of depression. It only takes three major hits to cause major depression. Judging by what I've learned about you, you have at least three if not more. The bad news is, there isn't much you can do about two of them, childhood family dysfunction, or death of a loved one or loss of a body part, other than to put it in perspective, but there is something you can do about the other causes such as poor diet, lack of exercise, lack of sleep, drug abuse, negative self-talk, etc. You really ought to read his book, Depression, The Way Out or take or watch his seminar on overcoming depression. His web site is http://www.drnedley.com/ . Blessings on you!
ReplyDeleteThe holidays are always difficult times for dysfuntional families. Not enough money for gifts and taking care of necessities. Time together is sometimes more about what you don't have than what you do. If you are not spending time with family on the holidays..volunteer at a homeless shelter or a church charity where they are serving food to others. It helps you to remember that you are not the only one and that this too shall pass. Hang in there! God bless.
ReplyDeleteI was surprised that you'd rather spend Christmas in Mexico with a friend than to be with your own children & granddaughter in Chattanooga for the Christmas holidays. I would think being around your own family would make you happy & help you get over your depression. Also, attending a church occasionally doesn't make you addicted to religion. Or even if you don't go to church, just inviting God into your life will make a huge difference. I think it would fill that void that you have in your life and help you overcome your depression. Some people think they don't need God in their lives - that they can do everything on their own steam. But that's a very sad misconception. Anyway, God doesn't want us to be religious - he wants us to have a personal relationship with him.....by inviting Him into our hearts.
ReplyDeleteI hope you will think seriously about this. Have a Happy Thanksgiving and give thanks!
So, we're done here?
ReplyDeleteHey Jim, just checking back in. Are you all right, buddy? Sorry I haven't been reading your blog every day, but what happened? I hope all is well, and you just don't have internet access at the moment... Praying.
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